With time, age and diverse life experiences, I do believe that the most difficult things in life are:
1) To be in a state of perpetual Self Awareness => This is a state in which one is continuously fully conscious of our self – to be aware of one’s thoughts, emotional responses, words and deeds. While most people are aware of themselves for several hours in the day, it is hard to be continuously in this state
2) Letting Go => Most people find it hard to “let-go” of negativity in their life – Whether a past memory, an unpleasant experience, a disloyal friend, an embarrassing moment, a shameful act, a disappointing event, etc. This baggage that we carry internally significantly influences our thoughts and feelings in ways that we do not realize; and impedes our growth and progress in life. It is important to learn to let-go; only then is one liberated from the past and is able to create a positive future. Only then can one lead a rich and fulfilling life
3) Stop Judging => Judgment seems to be a second nature for many of us. We are constantly in the state where we are naturally conditioned to pass judgment. The first response elicited in any situation is typically “Oh! This is good”, “This is bad”, etc. If we are able to dispel judgment for a few minutes every day, that is bliss!!!
4) Change – We all know that “Nothing is permanent but change”. However, one of the most difficult things in life is to bring a change across any of the following dimensions – whether in our appearance (physical change), in the way we think / in our mind-set (mental change), in the way we chose to respond and express our self to any life situation (emotional change).
Change can be addressed for:
a. Oneself – Attempting to bring an internal change across any change dimension
b. Others – Attempting to bring a change in others across one / more of the change dimension
5) Accepting Change in our lives => With time, we are naturally programmed to be and live life is a specific way. This has evolved over time based on our life experiences. As long as things are progressing the way they always have been, one is comfortable. However, when there is a change in our life (whether a new job, marriage, a new place, etc.), one finds it hard to adapt and cope with the change. As one grows, adaptability usually reduces and hence the receptivity to any change (even if it is positive) is usually unwelcome.
6) Execute a task which one is not interested in => If one is not interested in performing a task, it is extremely difficult to perform the same (whether at work or at home). What is even more difficult is if someone else insists on performing the task in a specific way.