Friday, February 8, 2013

Mid-Life Crisis?

"Mid-Life Crisis" is a word I hear just too often these days from everyone around me.. Its almost as if every second person is going through it..
People between 30 - 40 years old, who on the face-of-it appear to have everything going right for them claim to be in a state of "mid-life crisis"

So what is Mid-Life Crisis?
According to Wikipedia, "Midlife crisis is a term coined in 1965 by Elliott Jaques stating a time where adults come to realize their own mortality and how much time is left in their life. A midlife crisis is experienced by many people during the midlife transition when they realize that life may be more than halfway over. Sometimes, a crisis can be triggered by transitions experienced in these years, such as andropause or menopause, the death of parents or other causes of grief, unemployment or underemployment, realizing that a job or career is hated but not knowing how else to earn an equivalent living, or children leaving home. People may reassess their achievements in terms of their dreams. The result may be a desire to make significant changes in core aspects of day-to-day life or situation, such as in career, work-life balance, marriage, romantic relationships, large expenditures, or physical appearance." [Src: ]

Well, I guess the above explanation sums it-up well..

From what I know, people in their 40's or 50's usually spoke about "Mid-Life Crisis"... But I guess Todays 30's are Yesterday's 40's or 50's

But what is it about being in the 30's that triggers the "Mid-Life Crisis" Syndrome?
From what I see around me, it is broadly triggered by:
* A sense of purposeless about life
* A lack of long term goal
* A quest for "Who am I?"
* An answer to "Why I am here? Why am I doing this?"
* Trying to always live up to others expectations
* Having no "ME Time" - Time just for yourself
* Too many financial liabilities
* Young parents in nuclear families with no support system 

And I observe that "Mid-Life Crisis" appears to be universal problem
Whether you are a man or women
Whether you are single or married
Whether you have kids or not
Whether you live in Bangalore, Delhi, London or Chicago
Whether you are rich or not-so-rich

I can't help but wonder if there are some practical ways for people to deal with "Mid-Life" Crisis. So I asked a wise old aunty I know for her "wisdom".. And I liked her answer, so sharing on my blog
* Slow down in life... Be thankful for all that you have. And appreciate the beauty of things around you - Nature, People, Jobs, Houses, Cars.. People don't really acknowledge and appreciate all the goodness in life. Today, people spend way too much time grumbling about what they don't have, than being Thankful for all the Goodness of their lives

* Spend time on a regular basis with those who really matter to you, who you care about, who you love and who make you happy.. People seem to value "real and important relationships" a lot less these days. And the reality is that it is these relationships which give us strength, courage, confidence, inspiration, hope, power and a reason to live. At the end of life, people will only remember you for how you touched their life.. Not for what you gave them (materialistically) or how much you earned. Just be clear that Money can't buy you everything, especially loving relationships. So value the relationships you have, and build on them. Most importantly, give them "REAL time!", not "FaceBook / Twitter Time" (I was pleasantly surprised to hear this :)

* Spend some time re-thinking your own goals and priorities in life.. You cannot have more than 2 TOP priorities on your list at any point of time.. Realize that you are only human, and cannot always make everyone happy all the time. And its OK to focus and invest in your own happiness.. If you are happy within, you will be able to radiate that internal happiness in all that you do and in your relationships

1 comment:

  1. Nischala, it's a very important topic that you highlighted beautifully. You are really good at words. i think such issues should be addressed properly. And, yes, i agree with you and your aunty.