Tuesday, May 7, 2013

33 Essentials to make a Marraige work in the Long Term

(1) Trust
(2) Genuine RESPECT for each other
(3) Openness to acknowledge changes in yourself
(4) Openness to acknowledge changes in your spouse
(5) Openness to acknowledge changes in your environment
(6) Openness to accepting changes in yourself
(7) Openness to accepting changes in your spouse
(8) Openness to accepting changes in your environment
(9) Ignoring things that are best ignored
(10) Sense of humor
(11) Ability to laugh at yourself
(12) Ability to apologize - when it's your fault, & when it's not your fault
(13) Knowing when to SHUT UP and when to Speak Up
(14) Managing expectations
(15) Communication - Know what to say and How to say it
(16) Letting-Go of what does not really matter
(17) A lot of HARD WORK
(18) Sacrifices
(19) Shared goals / dreams
(20) Personal space ("ME Time) - for you / your spouse
(21) Shared views on personal finances and money matters
(22) Compliments - They get rarer and fewer with the passage time, but make an ocean of difference to the "overall health of a relationship"!
(23) Good Health - you and your spouse
(24) Strong networks / relationships (friends / family) outside of marriage
(25) Limited financial liabilities
(26) Ability to work through differences (of opinions, of views, of perspectives)
(27) Appreciation for yourself and each other
(28) Self-worth (for you and your spouse)
(29) Clarity on individual roles and responsibilities within the 4 walls and outside the 4-walls (For e.g: Who fills fuel in the car? Who does the laundry? Who pays the bills?)
(30) Balance in the "relationship equation" (Power, Financial, Social and within the 4-walls) - There should be "Giving & Receiving" in a balance measure. Any imbalance creates problems
(31) GENUINE care for each other
(32) Willingness to share
(33) Agreeing on what is RIGHT and WRONG ; Some things will always be GRAY!


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I know! "LOVE" did not find a spot there..That was intentional to check if you could spot it :)

So what's your view? Leave a comment to let me know

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