Monday, September 30, 2013

From Daughter to Mother: Lessons Learned

Being a parent has two sides.

You learn something new every day for your children - About yourself, your child and the world

And you teach something new every day to your children - About themselves, About the world, About people, About life...

So what are the life lessons that my 3 year old daughter taught me?

Lesson 1: Live in the PRESENT
Babies live life in the NOW! They don't worry about the future or dwell in the past. Life is just about what to see, do, say or listen at this moment. And memory is really short lived. So it takes less than a minute to forget the past and laugh; and also just a little something to change the smile into a giant big tear! And before you know it or realize it, the moment is over, and everything is just fine :)

Lesson 2: Be CURIOUS
Babies are curious about everything. Everything is new, exciting, unexplored and wonderfully inviting to touch, feel, meddle, spoil, learn, see, smell, and hear. And the world around is a treasure waiting to be discovered, almost a Pandora’s Box!

So babies explore everything around them at their own pace, at their own will, and in their own unique way! Be it with touch, smell, questions, feeling, or whatever! But the journey to unravel the mysteries and treasures of the world starts with being curious.

Lesson 3: Focus on the EXPERIENCE
A very important lesson which babies can teach us is to focus on the experience. And for this, you should give your undivided attention to the experience. The only pre-requisite is that you should do one thing at a time. Else, you don't pay enough attention to the experience neither do you enjoy it!

So if they're crying, it is about crying. If they're laughing, it is about laughing. If they're playing, it is about playing.  If they're on YouTube, it is about YouTube. Everything else can wait! And there’s no hurry about the next thing. There’s no anxiety about what they are missing.

And that's an invaluable lesson because in today's day and age, everyone is trying to do a gazillion things in one minute. The most important lesson for adults is to find ingeniously creative ways to make every moment count. And the truth is every moment counts - If only you give it your undivided attention and dwell in the moment

Lesson 4: Laugh HEARTILY
If you've ever heard a baby laugh, you'll agree that it is one of the most beautiful and musical sounds to the ear! A baby's laugh is genuine, pure, from the tummy and is a delight to listen to! Also, babies are really not aware of who's around, who's watching them, whose going to say what - They just LAUGH, and frankly don’t care about who says what if they laugh it out!

A lesson worth learning and practicing - When you feel like laughing, laugh heartily without a care in the world - It is an unparalleled experience!

Lesson 5: Want something badly enough? - GO FOR IT
If a 3 year old baby wants something badly enough, he / she will do everything is his / her capacity to get it - And I don't mean that's always good. But the point is that babies cry, yell, scream, shout, plead, beg, request, create a scene - And do just about anything and everything they possibly can to get what they want!

And that's an important lesson because way too often many of us tend to give up way too early and easily on what we really WANT. A lesson worth emulating from babies.  If you really want something badly enough, GO FOR IT! After all it is the result which matters, not so much the means ;)

Those are my lessons. What are yours?

Originally published on Parentous


  1. The babies which are cute, adorable , innocent etc etc..........wait till they grow up into teens and see the transformation,

    They will live in the present but plan for the future . I want xxx cell-phone after 3 months. 2 weeks later yyy film will be released , so plan to watch and eat.

    (over-curious) Do I hv to elaborate?

    Want something. They will move heaven and earth to get it.

    But its fun to see them transform..

  2. Nischala, :-) I could have written this post. These are lessons that make life joyful. In fact, every day I get to observe a lot of children and they delight me with their love for life. They don't care about grudges and petty quarrels. They have them, but they're over and done with...they don't carry them.

    Love the post. I've sent you a message on Facebook. :D

    1. Thanks Vidya for stopping by and your comment.. Life would be so much simpler if we all let-go of past baggage.. Alas! Not so easy in real life :(

  3. After all child is the father of the man :)

  4. It amazed me when I quit my job to stay home to raise my children how much I learned and grew as a person from the experience. I love your lessons and can relate to each one. It is the circle of life..having children and learning is what life is all about. ♥