Wednesday, October 2, 2013

A 3 year old & Gandhiji's 3 MONKEYS! [UBC Post 2]

Today (2 Oct 2013) is Gandhi Jayanthi - The day when Mahatma Gandhi was born. If you are an Indian / have any connection to India  / any interest in India, you would have read / heard about Mahatma Gandhiji ; and his critical role & contribution towards India's independence. If you want to read about his life, beliefs, teachings and journey, click here - It is one of the most comprehensive site on any information related to his life..

For most of you who've heard / read about Gandhiji - you would know that the "3 MONKEYS" are frequently mentioned with Gandhiji's name.The reason for this is that one notable exception to Gandhiji's lifestyle of non-possession was a small statue of the three monkeys which was gifted to him. Today, a larger representation of the three monkeys is prominently displayed at the Sabarmati Ashram in Ahmedabad, Gujarat, where Gandhi lived from 1915–1930. For more details, click here .

What do these 3 Monkeys translate to?
The three monkeys are Mizaru, covering his eyes, who sees no evil; Kikazaru, covering his ears, who hears no evil; and Iwazaru, covering his mouth, who speaks no evil.

"OK, so what's the connection of the 3 MONKEYS with a 3 year old?" you may ask as that's the title of this blog
As a parent of a 3 year old, I find myself in many a 'rough and tough' situation when the only workable and practical and feasible strategy to deal with my 3 year old is to adopt the philosophy of the 3 MONKEYS.. Not in the literal sense because there's no evil intentionally from the Baby... But in "spirit"..

This translates to the following really:
"Turn a BLIND EYE (or Act as if you saw nothing)" to her many eccentricities many times of the day and night. Especially when this involves throwing a tantrum, not following instructions / orders and doing things exactly the opposite way of what she's been told [ I think just to irk those around her :( ]. In such situations, I've tried explaining nicely / sweetly / politely and also sternly in a strict voice and tone.. but it just never works. What works almost always is if you ignore her actions, and act as if nothing happened.. She'll end up doing exactly the way you want :).. So Thank You Mizaru

"Turn a DEAF EAR (or Behave as if you heard nothing)" when the baby's requests are "unrealistic / unreasonable" (And trust me! They are in abundance with an imaginative, creative and thinking 3 year old) OR When she throws a tantrum with decibel levels hitting the roof-tops! (Thank God! Houses are somewhat sound-proof.. Else, they'd have to create an "Island" exclusively for the families of "loud and noisy" children between 2 to 5 years.. ). Again, the only effective way to deal with such situations is to turn a deaf ear. Act as if you can't / didn't hear and in a few minutes the demand / tantrum is forgotten. If you do react / respond with any semblance of logic / reason, you won't know where your next 3 hours went!.. So Thank You Kikazaru

"Stay DUMB (or Say nothing - Just Be Silent and Quiet)" when she does everything in her capacity to make you angry, stressed, agitated, irritated..etc.etc. etc and you are going to explode. In such situations, what works is to take a deep breath and just stay quiet (The pent up emotions can come out later and at someone else in some other form.. For now, they can wait!). It takes a lot of self-control, but again it is probably the most effective way to diffuse and sail through the current situation at hand.. So Thank You Iwazaru

Oh Oh! I got to go now... Its time for me to don the role of one of the 3 monkeys.. Which one I need to figure quickly.. And while I do that, you leave a comment.. I'll be sure to respond!


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24 comments:

  1. What a great application of the Monkeys to parenting! I think it would be great to talk about with siblings as well, dealing with eachother!

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    1. Hi Marya - Thanks for stopping by and your comment. Let me wear my thinking hat now.. Hmm!

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  2. Loved this and your modern take on The Three Wise Monkeys, I look forward to reading more during the challenge.

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    1. Thanks Anita.. Do stop by and hope you enjoy the other posts

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  3. Great comparison with the 3 monkeys. I have a four year old and can totally relate!

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  4. If Gandhiji lived In today's world, he would add two more monkey to the already three - Think no evil and Do no evil! This is also needed in today's world.

    BTW, CHO is a nice short form, loved to read it. :)

    Raspal

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  5. Do you know when these three roles are most needed in parenting? Yeah I sometimes hope I have six hands to perform all three monkey roles at once. I have two teenagers you see. :D

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    1. Jyothi - I am learning by trial and error, and will hopefully figure it out.. Two teenagers.. Gosh! 6 hands you need...

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  6. A wonderful take on the concept! Me likes it. Also I feel this philosophy works for husbands too :D :D

    Richa

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    1. Richa - I agree.. Didn't think about it.. but now that you say... I should apply more often.. With spouses it is adult - adult relationship, so sometimes it is tough to apply.. :).. Worth a try nevertheless

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  7. This is brilliant and I wish I would have known this when my kids were this age, especially my son. He was a real handful. Thankfully he grew out of it. LOL

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    1. Kathy - Tx for stopping by and your comment.. They are a handful at that age.. Glad I figured sooner than later.. while i understand the theory, application will take some time..;)

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  8. I think I too should apply your tips to my teen's unreasonable tantrums. great post. and good interpretation of the 3 monkeys.

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    1. Thanks kalpana.. Good luck, and let me know if it works.. :)

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  9. Nischala, this is my first visit to your blog. That was really funny post. I cant imagine a mother saying she needs 3 monkeys for 3 year old.
    However, good luck with your 3 year old and your blog.

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    1. Sugandha - Thanks for stopping by, and leaving a comment.. I don't need all 3 monkeys all the time.. usually 1 will suffice, but sometimes.. all 3 play their part ;).. Thanks for the wishes

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  10. As parents we need to find out what works for our children. Some children respond to a stern look others require a different approach:)

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    1. I agree Toni.. It depends on the child and the parent. The combo is unique . To each his / her own!

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  11. Funny, Nischala! :)
    I don't have children, but I've seen some that require you to get up to all the monkey tricks to keep them in line! ;)

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    1. Talk about it.. Evolution / Devolution at its best ;)

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  12. Love the monkey philosophy in life and to think, our ancestors are monkey. They've left a legacy and we should learn bout:)

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    1. :) indeed everything happens for a reason. Tx for stopping by and leaving a comment

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