Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Can you simplify the EQUATION of LIFE? [UBC Post 8]

When you are born, you don't know what an equation is or what an equation means..

Then you go to school, and you learn Math. They teach you all sorts of equations in school - Simple / Complex / Complicated , Linear / Non-Linear (Cubic, Quadratic, etc.) , Differential / Integral, etc etc

Then you finish High School, and go to college.. They teach you more equations there.. And you learn them too..

Then you study further / get a job.. And you realize that there are many new dimensions to the equations you learned in theory, as theory is very different from reality.. So you learn them too

The universal truth is this | Some equations you simply mug up, some you understand somewhat, and some you REALLY understand., and many you will never know or understand..

But who teaches you the equations of life..

"What is the equation of life... ?" you may ask
Well.. It is the equation that determines the quality, quantity and happiness quotient of your life..

 When you are born, there's really no equation or variables that you can define or control.. You just exist, go with the flow and try to assimilate the world around...

Through childhood, you start formulating the equation which reads as below
LIFE = Function (Your needs, Your wants, Your desires, Your dreams, Your goals, Your emotions and Your implicit / explicit expectations) +
Function (Your family's needs, Your family's wants, Your family's desires, Your family's dreams,  Your family's emotions and Your family's implicit / explicit expectations)
.... Its all about YOU and YOUR FAMILY

And then through the teenage years, the equation reads as
LIFE = Function (Your needs, Your wants, Your desires, Your dreams, Your goals, Your emotions and Your implicit / explicit expectations) +
Function (Your family's needs, Your family's wants, Your family's desires, Your family's dreams,  Your family's emotions and Your family's implicit / explicit expectations)  +
Function (Your friends needs, Your friends wants, Your friends desires, Your friends dreams, Your friends goals, Your friends emotions and Your friends implicit / explicit expectations).... Its all about YOU, YOUR FAMILY and YOUR FRIENDS (And Friends could be really friends / cousins. etc etc.)

And then you start (possibly) get a job, so the equation reads as
LIFE = Function (Your needs, Your wants, Your desires, Your dreams, Your goals, Your emotions and Your implicit / explicit expectations) +
Function (Your family's needs, Your family's wants, Your family's desires, Your family's dreams,  Your family's emotions and Your family's implicit / explicit expectations)  +
Function (Your friends needs, Your friends wants, Your friends desires, Your friends dreams, Your friends goals, Your friends emotions and Your friends implicit / explicit expectations) +
Function (Your organizations needs,  Your organizations goals, and Your organizations implicit / explicit expectations).... Its all about YOU, YOUR FAMILY, YOUR FRIENDS and YOUR ORGANIZATION (includes the organization, bosses / colleagues, peers /  colleagues and everyone who associated with your professional responsibilities )

And then you (possibly) get married, so the equation reads as
LIFE = Function (Your needs, Your wants, Your desires, Your dreams, Your goals, Your emotions and Your implicit / explicit expectations) +
Function (Your family's needs, Your family's wants, Your family's desires, Your family's dreams,  Your family's emotions and Your family's implicit / explicit expectations)  +
Function (Your friends needs, Your friends wants, Your friends desires, Your friends dreams, Your friends goals, Your friends emotions and Your friends implicit / explicit expectations) +
Function (Your organizations needs,  Your organizations goals, and Your organizations implicit / explicit expectations).... Its all about YOU, YOUR FRIENDS and YOUR ORGANIZATION +
Function (Your spouses needs, Your spouses wants, Your spouses desires, Your spouses dreams, Your spouses goals, Your spouses emotions and Your spouses implicit / explicit expectations) +
Function (Your extended family's needs, Your extended family's wants, Your extended family's desires, Your extended family's dreams, Your extended family's emotions and Your extended family's implicit / explicit expectations)...Its all about YOU, YOUR FAMILY, YOUR FRIENDS,YOUR ORGANIZATION, YOUR SPOUSE, YOUR SPOUSE'S FAMILY

And then you (possibly) have children
 LIFE = Function (Your needs, Your wants, Your desires, Your dreams, Your goals, Your emotions and Your implicit / explicit expectations) +
Function (Your family's needs, Your family's wants, Your family's desires, Your family's dreams,  Your family's emotions and Your family's implicit / explicit expectations)  +
Function (Your friends needs, Your friends wants, Your friends desires, Your friends dreams, Your friends goals, Your friends emotions and Your friends implicit / explicit expectations) +
Function (Your organizations needs,  Your organizations goals, and Your organizations implicit / explicit expectations).... Its all about YOU, YOUR FRIENDS and YOUR ORGANIZATION +
Function (Your spouses needs, Your spouses wants, Your spouses desires, Your spouses dreams, Your spouses goals, Your spouses emotions and Your spouses implicit / explicit expectations) +
Function (Your extended family's needs, Your extended family's wants, Your extended family's desires, Your extended family's dreams, Your extended family's emotions and Your extended family's implicit / explicit expectations)...Its all about YOU, YOUR FAMILY (children included), YOUR FRIENDS,YOUR ORGANIZATION, YOUR SPOUSE, YOUR SPOUSE'S FAMILY

Phew! What a complicated equation life has become! (It all started getting complicated with the Marriage, I TELL YOU!)

"Can life be simplified with an equation?" may be your next question

Well.. Again somewhat YES! is what I say
HERE's HOW? - 5 SIMPLE MANTRAS WHICH WORKED FOR ME
(1) Knock off some off the variables from the equation. For e.g.: After I became a mother, I felt I had to let-go of some friendships (for valid reasons). So I did. And that simplified my life in so many ways. Firstly, it freed up my time and also reduced the emotional commitment which the friendships demanded out of me to a great extent!

(2) Reduce the weight associated with some of the variables. For this, you need to get your priorities right. And the truth is that you cannot have more than 3 items TOP on your priority list at any given point of time.. So think through your PRIORITY list. For e.g.: Once I started working, I let go of some personal expectations of myself. This enabled me to focus better on my professional commitments

(3) Let go of PERFECTION. The moment you let go of perfection of every single thing in your life, it can be wonderfully liberating as you then focus on the experience and journey, as opposed to the result / outcome!

(4) Recognize that you will NEVER be able to make EVERYONE HAPPY all the TIME (including yourself) : So go easy on the implicit / explicit expectations part of the equation, and see how different things can be

(5) Acknowledge and Accept that the most important relationship you have in this world is with YOURSELF : Your life will transform once you accept this , and all for the better

That's my view.. Leave a comment to let me know your view..


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26 comments:

  1. Love this. You should make it a 4-part e-course to build your email list!

    Thanks for this.

    ~ Ann Covey

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    1. Tx Ann for stopping by and your suggestion. Appreciate it

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  2. Remembering I don't need to/can't make everyone happy all the time is something I am working on.

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    1. It is work in progress for most of us. Tx for stopping by

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  3. I've found that letting go of perfection doesn't mean letting go of excellence. The idea of perfection can sometimes be an obstacle for just getting started. And so I strive for excellence rather than perfection.

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    1. You're right Jen. And even for excellence I find that there's no absolute scale. But its a better thing to strive for than perfection. You may also like my post on Letting Go of Perfection @ http://nipmu.blogspot.in/2013/10/letting-go-of-perfection-ubc-post-6.html . And Thanks for stopping by. Nischala

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  4. Interesting analysis and conclusions! Yes, it's all about you and your family always. How we strike a balance and enjoy life to the fullest is the key to happiness!

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  5. Very nice...I had recently seen a video talking about same things. Interesting post, maybe we can discuss this more when we meet :D

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    1. Thanks Sugandha.. May be I should also start doing videos :).. Look forward to the rendezvous. Nischala

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  6. In an equation R.H.S.= L.H.S. But in life is this equation balanced?

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    1. It is as balanced as you'd wish / want / work at it

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  7. Nice post, loved how you linked up algebra with life in general and have to completely agree with your suggestions as to how to make this equation more manageable.

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  8. Excellent analysis. I agree. Most important relationship we have is ourselves. We should balance our life and enjoy to the fullest.

    On a lighter note, never take math as a college major and deal with equations. HaHaHa. If you have time, please read my latest post. Thanks.

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    1. :) Tx for stopping by. What abt those who do PhD in Math? ;)

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  9. Amazing how you related life to equations of all things. You must have loved maths in school to be able to relate life to it. I am impressed!

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    1. Tx Kathy.. I've studied Math right through my education and loved it... Nischala

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  10. 5 wonderful mantras for happiness. :)

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    1. Tx Jyothi. Easy to write, hard to practice.. But effort continues

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  11. I liked the solutions a lot. Very practical and useful. They are some regular reminders for people with a lot of baggage. Besides this, have you read the book sense of an ending? I do believe you would like it. There is also an equation on life, read the book you would like it a lot :)

    Richa

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    1. Tx for the comment & book suggestion. Glad you found it useful

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  12. After reading the complicated equations, I can only stand by one...it's about you & your family always. But you cannot ignore others close to you. And I strongly feel the same "Recognize that you will NEVER be able to make EVERYONE HAPPY all the TIME" :)

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    1. I agree Priti that its mostly about you and family. Tx for stopping by

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  13. Are you into MIS? Incisive analysis of life. :-)

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    1. Thanks Rekha.. MIS is one part of my work responsibilities. Thanks for stopping by. Nischala

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