Thursday, October 31, 2013

My Secret Wishlist for my Girls

As a woman / mother, I have strong “maternal emotions” for some of the girls in my family / personal network. The young beautiful girl who is the future of tomorrow, the girl with a twinkle in her eyes, the girl with a spring in their step, the girl with hopes  and rainbows for a lovely tomorrow, the girl with dreams, the girl with ambitions, the girls with love and laughs, the girl with a golden heart..

BUT… the BIG BUT always makes its presence felt. The “real world” of today is NOT SO NICE with every little girl! There are so many things to watch out for, so many things to take care of, so many things to do, so many things not to do, so many things to say, so many things not to say – The very thought of how the world will be several years from now can be frighteningly unpredictable, scary and not so good!

As I mull over what I’d really want for my girls 20 / 30 / 40 years from now, I can’t help but inscribe my Secret Wish List for my Girls (NO! This is not a Mother India wish list). This is just a heart-felt list of things I wish are better for the girls of the next generation – So that they can live - truly live, experience life, make choices, dream and live their dreams!

So without any further ado, sharing my secret wish list for my girls:

So without any further ado, sharing my secret wish list for my girls:
1. That she is not “discriminated” against in any way in any phase of life (especially for their gender, complexion, ethnicity, physical appearance, social standing, or choices of life)

2. That she never experiences abuse of any kind – physical abuse, emotional abuse, mental abuse, financial abuse or social abuse

3. That she is physically strong; and can protect/defend herself – should the situation demand it

4. That she is endowed with good health and physical agility; and no major illnesses befall her

5. That she has a radiant smile, and doesn’t need to ever use lipstick/cosmetics as her smile is enough to take your breath away

6. That she has a natural glow on her skin; and she never really needs to use skin creams/cosmetics just look good. Her natural beauty should shine through

7.  That she is always healthy and within the recommended weight range; and never ever has to deal with the weight issues (obesity, undernourishment, etc) ; Weight issues can typically change the quality and quantity of their life and life experiences

8. That she can “TRULY” exercise her choices – w.r.t education, occupation, choice of her life partner and the decision to be a mother

9.  That she is knowledgeable and wise in the “basics and fundamentals” of the following – Personal Finance, Self, Human emotions, Human relationships, The human anatomy, Communication and Technology

10. That she does not face the “glass ceiling” (which exists even today for women) as a part of their professional careers

11. That she has “true” freedom and control over her personal finances

12. That she can truly decide if, when and how she wants to be a mother; and that the child-birth experience is as pain-free as can medically be feasible

13. That she grows into a society where “The mind is without fear, and the head is held high

14. That she is truly respected for what she is – by the men and women in her life

15. That by the time she grows up – Home Maintenance and other mundane domestic activities are completely automated / done by technology (For e.g.: Robots) – So “home maintenance” does not exclusively fall under the purview of things she should do

16. That she has access to safe and secure public transport (public / private) – at any time of the day or night; so that she can travel alone – for her personal/professional interests

17. That the workforce includes 50% women; and homes are run by 50% men

18. That she has at least 3 awesome friends – friends who will be willing to sign her a blank cheque (no questions asked), who will pick up her calls any time of day/night, and who stand by her during the darkest nights of her life

19. That she has enough wisdom to know when to speak and when to keep her mouth shut

20. That if required she can turn to the right individuals / organizations for help and support; and she will be heard and that she will get the required help

21. That the law of the land will protect her for her rights and interests

22. That worry does not rule her mind and life

23. That she grows to be an emotionally balanced individual

24. That she has access to the opportunities that she truly desires ; and has the potential to make a difference in the world / in the lives of those around her

25. That she is able to appreciate, understand and use technology to make her life simpler, easier and more efficient

26. That she is part of an environment that enables her to capitalize and build on her strengths; and improve on her weaknesses

27. That she has the strength and courage to take responsibility for her decisions and choices

28. That at work, she is compensated and progressed for her knowledge, skills, competence, performance and results

29. That she is aware of the multiple dimensions of power; and the explicit / implicit power that she wields

30. That she is connected with her femininity

31. That she truly understands the many hues of independence, dependence and inter-dependence

32. That she is valued as much for her brains, as her brawn and beauty

33. That for the rest of her life, she can sleep peacefully – almost everyday

34. That she is happy – at least for the most part of life

35. That she believes that she can aim for the stars, and reach the sky – if she sets her mind on it

36. That she is able to experience worldly imperfections, perfectly

37. That she leaves a personal legacy ; which will be valued and treasured for generations to come

This post is dedicated to the four special girls in my life – Baby N, Baby T, Drithi and Srishti. Hope the world is a better place for YOU!

That concludes my secret wishlist. Would love to hear your Wishlist for the girls in your life? Leave a comment to let me know…

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  1. Wow, that was quite a post!!! Loved each and every word of it.

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    1. need all prayers and the divine intervention, right?

  3. This is absolutely beautiful! Seems as if you've thought about this for quite a while! I hope this will eventually be something you show your girls!

  4. Beautiful Nischala! I wish your wishlist comes true for every girl/woman in our country! Such a long list is a reminder that we have much to achieve n a long way to go! But together I'm sure we can!

    1. It is hope and dreams for a better tomorrow which keep many of us going right, Aditi? Thanks for stopping by

  5. This is an incredibly powerful post. Please don't keep this list secret. Share it with your girls. Make it into a book or embroided tapestry that hangs in their rooms.

    There are so many of us moms, grandmas, aunties, sisters that wish the very same things for our girls. My own two girls are 26 and 29 - my wish for them was to not take the beaten path but to blaze a trail of their own. And that they have!

    Awesomeness Nischala!!

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    2. Peggy - Many thanks for stopping by, & your thoughtful suggestions. Your comment made from day - coz of what you've written, and because YOU wrote it :). I love the idea of a book or tapestry.. With a mom who thinks like you and conducts her life the way you do (atleast from whatever lil I've read in your posts), I'd be surprised if they didn't live up to your wishes.. More than words, a mothers actions make an ocean of a difference.. Much love and best wishes on your journey ahead! Nischala

  6. AMEN. you have not left any point for me to write ,Nischala (joking). I wish all the point that you mentioned be implemented and adhered to without fuss. It would a lovely society to live in .

    1. I wish so too Kalpana.. Would it not been awesome? I dream of it many nights, lets hope the dreams come true some day! Tx for stopping by. Nischala

  7. Nothing more to add here. I wish the same too. :)

    1. :). Wish someone is listening to our wishes

  8. I like the fact that you want your girls to experience worldly imperfections. To accept themselves just as they are! WTG!

    1. Absolutely.. We are all imperfect and yet perfect!

  9. Nothing more and nothing less :)


  10. I wouldn't add a thing. Awesome post and all I want for my children as well. ♥

  11. A very heartfelt post. Ezpecially the fretting over weight or cosmetics. I hope each one of these wishes come true for all girls of the world. Amen.

  12. Wishing the same to all the daughters out there in the world. Awesome post. :)