Tuesday, October 29, 2013

Sibling Love | A Pleasure and Treasure

Siblings are the people we practice on, the people who teach us about fairness and cooperation and kindness and caring, quite often the hard way. ~Pamela Dugdale

Let me start by narrating a real-life story
A year back
Mummy to Baby N: "Whom do you love the most?"
Baby N: Mummy
And Mummy was mighty pleased :)

Mummy to Baby N: "Whom do you love the most?"
Baby N : Baby T
And Mummy is speechless (And of course, super proud and super happy :)

The thing about sibling love is that makes it a TREASURE and a PLEASURE - If you've ever had a sibling you'd agree...

A sibling is that special present that your parents gifted you
To experience the many joys, pleasures and treasures
Of what life has to offer
Within the 4-walls of your house

As children
A sibling is your home-work buddy
A sibling is your playground companion
A sibling is your entertainment partner
A sibling is your best ally to your parents
A sibling is your partner in many a crime
A sibling is your mate at the study table, dining table and exam table
A sibling is your advocate, supporter, savior and strength on many a gloomy night
A sibling is also your worst critic, your foe, your worst nightmare :(
A sibling is the one who makes you understand what a love - hate relationship truly is
A sibling is the one who first introduces you to the concept 'For better or for worse'

As adults
A sibling is your friend, philosopher and guide
A sibling is your 4 AM friend
A sibling is your buddy through the good, bad and ugly
A sibling helps you weather many a storm
A sibling brings a smile to your face when all else goes wrong
A sibling makes your world go blue, green, yellow, white and pink
A sibling teaches you all about love and hate
A sibling takes care of you when all else desert you
A sibling is that ear when mummy daddy don't need to hear 
A sibling is that one person who'll always lend a shoulder, greet you with a smile, and shower you with a warm hug that make it all so worth-while
A sibling is a BLESSING indeed
And if you have a sibling, you are LUCKY indeed
About a year ago, I wrote a post here on my blog titled "The difference a sibling can make in your life". The key points I mentioned was that having a sibling teaches you so many things about life..
* Siblings teach you to SHARE
* Siblings help you deal with CHANGE
* Siblings will LOVE you no matter what you say or do
* Siblings can be that SAFETY NET you fall back on in times of need
* Siblings teach you to the importance of TRUST
* Siblings teach you how to build and nurture RELATIONSHIPS
* Siblings make you understand what TEAM-WORK is about

It's been a year, and I agree with all the above.. with a few more additions
* Siblings help you discover many new sides of YOURSELF
* Siblings help you understand what it means to FULLY ACCEPT SOMEONE
* Siblings truly help you appreciate the many hues of LOVE

In today's day and age, way too many couples have made personal choices in the marriage / parenting department. So I have friends who've said "No.. Thank You. I don't want to get married" to "No Thank You! We're happy as a twosome" to those who've said "Thank You. We are happy with one. And that's the most we can handle". And then there are those parents who're willing to go the extra mile and say "A family is incomplete without two kids". The latest trend that I'm seeing in many families is that parents are going even further with 3, 4, 5 and even 6 kids! (In some cases, Number 3 was an accident, or twins or it was due to second marriages where both partners came in with their children from the first marriage and also (possibly) had their own children or the mother desperately wanted a bunch of kids to raise and so they ended with with a large family). When I asked one such parent who has 3 kids how she manages, she said "Oh! Once you have 2, its a lot easier with the next few.. Firstly, you've been there and done that as a parent. So no sweat!. Secondly, they take care of each other, so its not as tough".. Hmm.. I don't know what to say to that! But it looks like life is coming a full circle from the way it was about 50 years ago! A wise old uncle in my family is famous for stating that "Any family is complete with 4 kids - 2 boys and 2 girls, as you learn and experience just about all kinds of relationships in the family.. like Brother - Brother, Sister - Sister, and Brother - Sister".. Wisdom indeed, but may not be relevant for today's day and age?

The other evening when I was at a park with my daughter, it warmed my heart to see many sibling-duos. All of them came just as the "duos" with no Mummy Daddy on toes, while the single kids came with Mummy / Daddy / Granny or Nanny.
As I observed the behaviors of the siblings at play, I was surprised and touched at the love and affection among the sibling. Just how "protective" the elder boys / girls were about their little brothers / sisters made my heart melt. They'd guard them, lose for them, protect them, push for their turn to play, pick a fight (if required), lift them up when they fell, hugged them when they needed a hug, kissed them when they needed a kiss, gave them water to drink and something to eat, wiped many a tear, showed them the sky, aeroplanes, moon, sun and stars....
I was deeply touched...
And went down on memory lane
To my own childhood
After all, the lessons your sibling will teach you
You will carry through life..
And no one can take that away from you

This post is dedicated to my sister - Thank You for everything

I am linking this post to the October’s Ultimate Blogging Challenge and NaBloPoMo 


  1. This truly was such a beautiful post. All these days I haven't really missed a sibling, but this post makes me have second thoughts :)

    Loved the post a lot

    1. Lets just say that you never really understand the difference till you have them :).. & guess its too late for you :)

  2. I have never gotten along with my sibling and have always kind of longed for the closeness others experience. I have 2 children and they are close. I am so glad.

    1. kathy - as a mom, it is wonderful to see your kids bond well .. its probably one of the best gifts you can give your kids, right?

  3. Awesome post. Very well written. Thank you for sharing!

  4. Awesome post, very well written. Thank you for sharing. :-)

  5. Beautiful post. There's a six year gap between my sister and I. Her partner in crime was our cousin who is just a year younger than her. But as we've gotten older, we have grown much closer and because just as you shared. We have one little one at the moment and planning a second one in the near future--we don't want a big age gap. After that, though, I think we'll stop!

    1. All the best.. You'll enjoy watching the sibling love.. Its a pleasure and treasure

  6. A sibling is a cushion , warm and comforting as well as to take a punch.

  7. Awwww @ Baby N's words!! So sweet!! Siblings are the bestest... Nature's way of creating a slightly (or very) different version of us :)